Last evening as my wife and I spontaneously met our oldest son for a drink and quick dinner in celebration of his final, collegiate final exam, we all received a wonderfully spontaneous gift. While sitting at the bar, just starting our meal at the Barley Creek Brewery, the young woman serving us approached and said “your dinner is taken care of”. We sat back, raised our brows a bit and…“come again?” She asked if we had noticed a young man sitting about a half dozen seats to my right in a white polo. We had, but barely as there were maybe 15 people in and around the bar area. She then shared his story which was simple yet touching.
“He said he has a temporary job in the area and will only be around for a few more months.” He was alone having a beer and dinner at the bar and was watching us, further sharing with the bar tender “my family is from North Carolina and I really miss them. These three over there seem like a really nice family and I want to buy them dinner. Please don’t say anything until after I leave.” And that was that. Never met the man, we were not a family in need, purely spontaneous and out of his feelings in the moment.
I woke several times last night thinking about it and wondering if he knew how much a gesture like that might mean to us or how we would respond. Again, we are not a family in need and there are plenty of families out there that can’t afford a meal at all, never mind from a restaurant. But of course his gesture did not come from a platform of charity, it came in the moment based on his feelings in the moment and that is what is so compelling. The first word out of my mouth after the “come again?” response to our server was “we have to pay this forward”.
I’ve never seen the movie, can’t tell you who was in it, but I get the concept of “pay it forward”. A genuine act of good deed can be contagious and cause people to do the same unto others. Given our current look over your shoulder economy and polarizing politics it seems to me we could all use a surprise spontaneous gesture of kindness.




